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An original poem by Bobbi T.M.

+Open Letter Series x Bobbi T.M.

First in the series of open letters. Set to the tune of of: Road to Zion x Damian Marley, Nas I wish you a safe return back yourself. A return back to what feels good. To what feels euphoric. To something that gives your soul completeness. That is my current journey. Maybe the internal, perpetual journey that we all must endure. I hope the journey is fostered by gentleness, humility, and the fullness of love. I hope that the journey is navigated with ease. I hope that it fulfills. I hope it endures. I wish you a safe and sound journey back to yourself.

Original Poem by Bobbi T.M.

A Year of Total Transformation. This year’s theme for me was learning how to pivot. Let’s talk about 2022. It definitely has been the year of total transformation. We all know the saying that the beginning of the year is vastly different from the start of the year. There’s been so many changes. Definitely loss and gains. Physical losses were such a big, big thing. Especially within my family this year. Also, just dynamics changing, in general. Some for the better. some for the worst. The biggest lesson I believe this year has been pivoting. Most times, we plan on planting ourselves somewhere and not plan the transition. Sometimes — most times you have to be ready to pivot. It’s not always setting your sights on one thing .Maybe it’s the Gemini rising in me, but I believe that you have to learn how to pivot. Pivoting is definitely crucial because you can’t stay in one place. You’re not meant to be in one place forever and that’s with anybody you have to learn about changing your situation for the better in a haste. We all have experienced the highs of the highs and lows of the lows the year. In all adverse situations, we must remember to afford ourselves grace. Grace brings the compassion that we must seize and utilize for and within ourselves. I encourage you all to savor the pauses in the moment, extend yourself the utmost grace, and think of every transition as a pivot and not an ending. Thank you and Be Well!

Original prose about the journey of recovery. The resurgence after the storm. The phoenix rising from the ashes. Those sentiments fully embody the era that I’m stepping into. Normalizing setting boundaries; with self first and then others immediately after. Normalize stepping into your joy that has nothing to do with someone else. In this recovery period, I’m learning what fleeting emotions feel like. Happiness is fleeting, so is sadness. On the contrary, both joy and sorrow are constant. I have realized that I am in the midst of both. Fleetings and constants. This applies to people too.

I recently seen a Twitter Post that said "You keep calling it waiting, when in fact, you're in preparation. On this blog, a couple of months ago, I addressed the fact that I felt like I was in a "waiting season." I mentioned that the downtime that I had been given by the Universe almost felt like punishment. This period felt like punishment because I was getting the exact "excitement" that I wanted. I like to think of this as a full circle moment now that I'm back in a "waiting" period of my life since my book release. I am simply in preparation. We always ask for breaks and rest, but when we get just that, we act like it's the most awful thing. In the last few weeks, I have been reminded myself to enjoy my rest because when the pace of life picks up again, I will definitely appreciate the preparation period. It's easy to fall into the top of comparison of others' excitement and fun and your own excitement and fun. Let this serve as a reminder that you don't know what is going on in other people's lives and to enjoy yours. Also, enjoy what you have now in appreciation of what's to come while you wait. In this time of preparation, I have realized the facets of myself that I have been ignoring. I have felt the push for change and elevation. I feel like I am being called to grow deeper in maintaining my spiritual health and grow more in appreciating all of me. Often, we wait to appreciate ourselves until we achieve certain goals, instead of loving the "now." It can be overwhelming, but the best thing that I have given myself is grace. Granted, it's still an evolving process, but extending yourself bits of grace throughout each day makes all the difference in the world. In conclusion, I ask that you (and myself) enjoy rest, enjoy the preparation periods of life, and extend yourself grace everyday. It truly changes you for the better.

Surrendering Song: Surrender x Jhene Aiko ft. Dr Chill Date Started: 7/9/2022 During: Grieving Process Time: 2:07am This year thus far has been a testament to the art of surrendering. Whether by choice or force, everyone will have to surrender to the powers that be. Truly standing on faith. Surrendering is the ultimate act of fact. You don’t know how your problems will be solved, but you have to stop worrying because they will somehow get solved. When there’s a will there’s a way. However, the will may not always be yours. The thought of that definitely frightens the timid like me and these past few months, I’ve undoubtedly faced my fears. 7/14/22 Time: 12:41am Surrender/ Surrendering is a continuing this week. My plans are vastly different from what happens. I’ve learned to breathe better through the challenges, though. Things haven’t been getting the best of my lately. Retreating is vastly different from withdrawing. I’m learning the process of retreating. I think that’s a great part of surrendering. Just knowing you done your absolute best is enough

21 Lessons Learned at age 21. A personal, annual reflective piece done by Bobbi in honor of her birthday. She shares lessons/ personal truths that she has learned in the past year symbolizing each year of life. Hope you enjoy! 1. Go where you are appreciated Dwell in places where you are genuiney appreciated and not just tolerated. 2. It's never too late It's never too late to start something new or different. I say this in reference to me getting my license at 21 and transferring to a new academic institution. 3. Resiliency is second nature I am more resilient than I give myself credit for. I didn;t start driving until this past year and I got both my license and first car. Go me! 4. I am capable I am capable of anything I put my faith and mind to. I am not hopeless in this world or life. 5. I was right (at least, sometimes. Lol!) Most situations where I didn't trust my intuition, my intuition end up being right. C'est la vie. 6. Patience is a virtue My grandmother always provide the anecdote of "Patience is a virue" to me when I get frustrated. In the past year, I have excercised more patience with myself and my goals. 7. Divine Timing is the best timing Human timing is always rushed and I have learned that the plans destined in my life are under heavenly control. Trust the process and trust the waiting seasons in your life. 8. I should have punched more bitches in their face(s) You read right. Violence is the answer sometimes. There is nothing wrong with a spiritual gangster. Purrr! 9. Relatives are relatives and family is family There are those you are simply biologically related to and then, there are those who become family through kinship. 10. Do not seek validation from others What I think of me is the only thing that matters and I think I'm pretty fucking cool. 11. Appreciate the present moment We strive too much for an uncertain future while letting life pass us by. I want to be more present. "The Now" is the only certain thing 12. Be your own advocate I have a voice and I have to use it. I had to learn how to be my own best friend - (Word to Beyoncé. 13. Saying "no" is okay I am more than entitled to reject anything or anyone that does not best suit or serve me a time without guilt or shame. 14. My creations are for me You may not always get the public kudos that you know you deserve, but learn to clap for yourself. The creation of this blog right here is a success story in which I had to clap for myself first 15. I am successful and have succeeded I have overcome so many obstacles and handled so much with grace. That right there is success. 16. My journey is my own "Comparison is the thief of joy." I choose to no longer compare where I am to anyone else's place in life. My journey is mine. 17. Life be life' ing [hard] Life is definitely that girl. She does not come to play. She happens to everybody. You can only simply choose to sit back and enjoy her. 18. It's okay to bow out (before it gets bad) Learn when you have overstayed your welcome. Hell, learn if you were even welcomed in the first place. Quitting is, in fact, a winner's sport. 19. Stop shaming yourself There is no shame in experiencing the perils of life. Shit happens. I am learning to see and make my own silver linings. 20. I do care and that's okay It's okay to care and to care deeply. It does not make you weak. You are a full blown human with emotions, after all. 21. Girl, just take a deep breath and slow down Having the luxury to take a breath is sometimes all the saving grace you need. Who are you rushing for? Honor the space in and around you. You deserve peace within stillness. I hope all the lessons mentioned inspire whoever reads this in any type of way. Thank you for reading and thank you for letting me share my year with you. Looking forward to all 22 has to offer. - Be Well

An original poem by Bobbi. Written in dedication to herself.

Let's continue our talk about Self- Sabotage, shall we? “If you let a man have a good thing, he’ll ruin it” Do yo know that to be true? Do you stand in your own way? Do you let opportunities pass you by? I’ll be the first to raise my hand and say so. I get anxious, let thing naturally go by, get upset, and start the cycle all over again. I’ve faced this dilemma in a few of my most recent relationships (all types). Scared of the what if before I even attempt to do. I laugh now but I know I should’ve done more. Granted, all things happen for a reason. So, I’ll let those feelings breeze away. But now, I know better. We have to get out of our own way when it comes to any and everything. After reading this [random thought about self- sabotage], I encourage you all to end the negative self talk and embrace all the positives. You are capable and worthy. Until next time, luvs. Be well.